Take Care Mama

Hi friend,

Imagine that we are in the thick of the holidays, running around purchasing gifts and treats for Christmas feeling stressed. December should be a joyous month filled with holiday cheer, but it sometimes can feel like an overwhelming season. Then we continue going home to hide and wrap Christmas presents for family and friends while avoiding anyone from peeking to see what Santa brought.

During that time, you may feel like all you want is a break and friend, you so deserve one. As a mama of children with special needs, we must take care of ourselves. I know at times it's easier to say it rather than doing it. But with everything going on, I strongly encourage you to engage in a daily self-care activity. Starting now. Thataway when the stressful times come, and they will, you will have the tools and coping skills to push through.

While taking care of yourself, you might find healing or a release of emotions. Just the other day I was dancing in a Zumba fitness class at my local gym and suddenly felt the need to cry. There was not one particular reason why I felt like crying, but y'all this special needs parenting is no joke. It's tough. I think I just needed to cry and get those feelings out. The same way that little children get hurt or upset, they instantly cry to release emotion, that's the same way adults can too.

Whatever it is that you feel like you may need, do it, mama. Self-care doesn't have to be an extravagant investment. Even seemingly small things can have a huge impact. Some examples could be taking deep breaths after buckling your babies in the car and closing the door for that 60 seconds to have a moment to yourself, or having a conversation with God, enjoying a sip of your favorite coffee or beverage, cleaning, and organizing, spending time with family or friends, trying something new, journaling, getting a service done (hair, nails, facial, massage, lashes, brows, botox, curbside, cleaning, etc. ), seeking a professional for counseling, having a date night, girls night, kids day out, go on a trip or other fun experiences.

The main things with self-care is not what you do, but how. Are you taking a moment for yourself and enjoying the present experience? Or are you rushing it? You give so much to everyone else and that is honorable. Sweet friend take care of you too. Running yourself ragged and giving away all you have is not healthy or sustainable in the long term.

These quick go to self-cares will add up and replenish your emotional cup. Just start with 5 minutes by deep breathing, saying positive declarations, listening to your favorite music, or saying a prayer. Fill your cup so you can pour out and take care of others from your overflow.

My hope and prayer for you are that when the holidays and stressful times come, you will have your saving grace; self-care.


With much love,

Minerva

Philippians 4:7 KJV
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.